So, I have this friend who has recently lost a lot of weight. When I commented on how good she looks now, she said she didn’t see it. Being the loving, encouraging friend that I am, I told her to go look in the mirror. Then she said that her whole life her mom told her that “there’s always something to make better.” Now, I don’t think that her mom was being cruel or malicious in any way. I think that, as a cosmetologist, she just had a hard time leaving work at work. She gets paid to help people look their best, and it’s hard to shut that off when you go home. I mean, it’s hard for all of us to leave work at work. I spent most of my life doing technical support where I pointed out problems and offered solutions. That’s great at work, but sometimes it can be very annoying around my friends and family. However, I think this illustrates a concept that has been so driven into our culture that we barely even notice what it does to us anymore.
Posted in Theology
Tagged Affects of Porn, Christian, Christianity, Christians, Feminism, Freedom, Gender Roles, Gospel, Grace, Healing, Jesus, porn
Recently, I read one of Preston’s posts at A Deeper Story. One of his posts was the first post I read at A Deeper Story, and I quickly began following both Preston’s blog and A Deeper Story. In this post, Preston writes about the tension he feels in his life when it comes to gender roles. I am absolutely grateful for thoughtful, deep posts about important topics, and am incredibly thankful that the grace and mercy of the cross allows for different and incomplete (or non-concrete) views on important topics. I began typing up a response, and it quickly grew too long to post as a comment, so I decided to post it here instead.
Darrin Patrick has said that there is a “man crisis” in today’s church. One could argue that this is a consistent theme among God’s people, and humanity in general, beginning with Adam. Mark Driscoll has said that in becoming a Christian, particularly for men, we must put forth an effort to be like Jesus and not like our earthly father Adam. While both of these statements ring true, it has left me with a question of how men are to step up and do what we can to resolve this “man crisis” by being more like Jesus and less like Adam. This is why I am incredibly grateful for Pastor Voddie Baucham’s latest book, Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes, which Crossway books was kind enough to send me as part of their book review program.
A couple days ago, I shared with you about a new community project that Tamara is graciously putting together. This project is a book birthed in pain, feelings of worthlessness, and being used. A book about What a Woman is Worth. I’m grateful for Tamara’s authenticity that led to this project, and am glad to support her in this. But, this message is for the men, and my tone is for the men.
Before you read any further, you need to read Tamara’s story that served as the catalyst for this much needed project, otherwise anything I say after this will be without context, and confusing.
Posted in What a Woman is Worth
Tagged Christianity, Christians, Gender Roles, Gospel, Jesus, Men's responsibility, TamaraOutLoud, What a woman is worth, women's value, women's value and worth, women's worth
Tamara, one of the writers I’ve come across through A Deeper Story, and one who I’ve come to respect for her raw authenticity is taking on a new project. A project birthed in pain, feelings of worthlessness, and being used.