I’ve been quiet the last few months, as my regular readers and avid Twitter followers have noticed by now. This is in part due to work picking up a bit, and my role changing to include more responsibilities. I guess one could say I’m becoming a grown up now. That’s a shocking thought, I know. But I’ve also become virtually silent because something else happened; an unexpected turn in my life’s journey, if you will.
This all started about six months ago when I wrote a blog about being Tired of Being Single over at Single Roots. It was an honest low point this past year and I knew I needed to get the negative thoughts and honestly hard words out of my system – and confront them with the gospel. I do that best in writing, so I pulled out my laptop, opened Notepad++, and started writing to myself. Given its vulnerable nature, I originally wrote it as a life: unmasked post, but when I finished it I felt it more appropriate to run on Single Roots if they wanted it.
They actually ran the post about a month after I’d written it, so I was well beyond the funk I was in at the time of its writing. I received some solid feedback and gained a few Twitter followers. I felt encouraged and pressed to keep writing and being authentic. But then something happened which I did not intend.
This girl who also goes to The Village read the blog. And liked it. She started following me on Twitter, along with several others, and I followed her back. Then we both got tired of talking in 140 characters and moved to Facebook chat. Then after three days I got tired of opening my Facebook app on my iPhone 4 every 2.5 seconds and asked if we could text instead.
Then we met in person at one of our church’s worship nights. I found myself continue to ask to spend time with her, trying to figure out what was going on here. I was definitely moving slowly toward whatever came next. Several weeks later, the penny dropped and everything became clear. That’s when I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she said “Yes!”
It’s been almost five months since she and I first started talking. We have received so much support and encouragement from family and close friends that it has been unreal.
So, I’ve been focused on this new-found, very unexpected relationship over the past several months, and this is the other reason I’ve been so quiet here lately. Rather than spending time reading the pages of a book or writing thoughts out on a blog, I’ve spent time trying to read the pages of her heart and trying to build a relationship that will last with Angela.
I’m very glad I did, because a week and a half ago, four days before Christmas, I asked her to marry me.
And she said “Yes!”
So, here’s to this year being much better than last year! #cheers